How to Remember Your Lost Loved Ones During the Holidays (Blogmas 2018, Day Fourteen)

Whether you lost a loved one recently or it’s been several years, the holidays can be an especially painful time for processing grief.  It’s completely normal to struggle with this! Finding ways to remember lost loved ones during the holidays and to incorporate their memory into your celebration can help.  Here are just a few ways that you can remember your lost loved ones during the holidays this year.

Set a place at the table

Setting a place at the table for your holiday dinner or at other festivities can be a nice way to remember your loved ones. This can also help if you’re feeling guilty about celebrating the holidays without them.

Photographs

If you have photographs of your loved one, you can display them as a consistent reminder.  A photo ornament on your Christmas tree could be a lovely touch.  Or, you could even give a framed photograph to someone else who is struggling with this loss.

Donations

If this was a fairly recent loss, you might consider donating some items that belonged to your loved one to a good cause.  If you don’t have any of their belongings or you’re not comfortable parting with them, you could donate financially or by volunteering with a favourite charity in their name.

A similar idea that I really like is donating a copy of your loved one’s favourite book to a library or other good cause.  I’ve always believed that you can learn a lot about a person from their favourite books, so this one seems especially poignant.

Light a candle

Lighting a candle in memory of your loved one can be very therapeutic.  You could even find a scent that you associate with your loved one, or with a memory the two of you shared.

Create a signal

What’s Your Grief has a wonderful idea in creating a “secret signal” for you and yours to share when something reminds you of the one you’ve lost.  This is a remembrance that can be incorporated year-round!

Talk about him/her

Talking about the good times you shared or the great memories you have of your loved one is a great way to remember them.  Reminisce with a friend or family member, or journal about it if you’d prefer.

Cook something special

Did your loved one have a favourite dish? Did he/she have a signature recipe? Incorporate something special into your holiday meal or other festivities.

Sing their favourite songs

If your loved one had a favourite Christmas carol or other holiday song, you could incorporate it into your own celebration.  Even a song completely unrelated to the season could be brought into it for this reason.  What’s important is that it’s special to you!

Memorialise your loved one

You could make a collage, scrapbook, or photo book of your favourite photos of/with them.  Or, you could make yourself a sort of “time capsule” filled with memories.  You could even have a book, bench, tree, or other memorial object dedicated to them.

Decorate their gravesite

If you can visit their resting place and are allowed to place things there, you could add some holiday flowers or other decoration to it.  Or, you could go “visit” and talk to your loved one about the holidays and what you’re feeling.

Celebrate as he/she would have

Did your loved one have a favourite holiday song, film, or tradition?  Make sure that this lives on by incorporating it into your own celebration.

Celebrate a service in their honour

If you’re a religious person, see if your place of worship offers a holiday memorial service.  This could be very cathartic, both for you and for others who are remembering your lost loved ones.

Put aside time to reminisce

If you’re already getting together with other friends and families over the holidays, you can easily set aside a bit of time to share memories of your loved ones.

Share a moment of silence

If talking about your lost loved one is too difficult, a moment of silence can be an equally poignant method of remembrance.

Decorate a tree of memories

If you’re the kind to put out multiple trees around the holidays (I’ve lost track of how many my mom’s got put away!), you can dedicate one (even a small one!) specifically to your loved one. You can hang photos, keepsakes, and notes on the tree to keep tangible memories front and centre.

Add a memorial ornament

If you can’t dedicate an entire separate tree, even a single ornament can have an incredible impact.  This is a great way to remember lost pets, too.  You can buy personalised ornaments in countless places, online or in person. Or, you an even make one yourself to remember your loved ones.

How to Remember Your Lost Loved Ones During the Holidays

Do you include a way to remember your lost loved ones during the holidays?

Happy Blogmas

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